Being single is not a curse; it’s an opportunity for self-discovery. While finding a romantic partner has its benefits, it’s equally important to understand what is truly wanted and needed in a relationship before diving into one. A period of singleness can be an essential time to figure out your relationship preferences, values, and goals. In this blog post, we’ll explore some insightful ways to help you discover what you like in a relationship while enjoying the single life.
Reflect on Past Experiences
Take the time in the MetaPhase to ponder past relationships and dating experiences. What went well and what didn’t? What caused happiness, and what caused discomfort? What relational needs were met, and which ones were not discussed? Identify patterns in past relationships and make a list of the relational needs, values, and behaviors that matter most. Reflection in the MetaPhase is the key to understanding relational needs and preferences.
Define Values
Understanding core values is essential to shaping relationship preferences and needs. What values are important? Independence, adventure, or stability? Communication, honesty, or trust? Knowing relational values will help you recognize compatible partners in the dating world.
Explore Interests
During the MetaPhase, embrace the opportunity to explore interests and passions. Engaging in hobbies and activities can be a great way to meet like-minded people with shared interests. These shared passions can be the basis for strong and lasting connections that cause limited disruptions in the Learning and Change Phase.
Cultivate Self-Love
Self-love and self-care are the foundations of any healthy relationship, including romantic relationships. Take this time to nurture a strong sense of self-worth and self-acceptance. When you love and respect yourself, you’ll be better equipped to identify partners who treat you with the same kindness and respect.
Seek Feedback from Trusted Individuals
Sometimes, friends and family members can offer valuable insights into relationship needs and interactive personalities. Ask trusted individuals for their opinions about strengths, weaknesses, and what they think would be a good match.
Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation and journaling, can increase the ability to tune into emotions and desires. Regularly checking in internally can lead to a better understanding of relationship needs and an interactive personality.
Embracing singleness is not about waiting for the right person to come along but rather about becoming the right person for yourself. Use this time to explore the values, interests, and desires that make up your interactive personality type. When you understand what you like in a relationship, you’ll be better prepared to build a fulfilling and meaningful partnership with a strong sense of self when the time is right to move into the Alignment Phase.