Gambling can start as a harmless form of entertainment, but for some, it can develop into a serious addiction that affects finances, relationships, and mental well-being. With Gambling Awareness Month upon us, it’s important to recognize the warning signs of problem gambling, understand available resources, and learn how to approach a conversation if you’re concerned about your partner’s gambling habits.
What Is Gambling Addiction?
Gambling addiction, also known as compulsive gambling or gambling disorder, is the uncontrollable urge to keep gambling despite negative consequences. Unlike casual gambling, where people can walk away without issue, those with an addiction struggle to stop, even when they’re losing money, experiencing distress, or facing relationship problems.
It is important to keep in mind that even if someone is consistently winning or simply not struggling with financial consequences, gambling addiction is not about the money alone. When gambling starts to interfere with someone’s relationships, mental health, physical well-being, or other areas of their life, it becomes problematic.
Warning Signs of a Gambling Problem
Recognizing gambling addiction early can help prevent further harm. Some common signs include:
- Chasing losses: Continuously gambling to try to win back money lost.
- Lying about gambling: Hiding the frequency or amount of gambling from loved ones.
- Financial issues: Draining savings, maxing out credit cards, or borrowing money to continue gambling.
- Preoccupation with gambling: Constantly thinking about gambling, planning the next bet, or feeling restless when not gambling.
- Inability to stop: Repeatedly trying to cut back or quit gambling but failing to do so.
- Gambling despite consequences: Continuing to gamble despite financial trouble, damaged relationships, or legal problems.
- Emotional distress: Experiencing anxiety, depression, irritability, or mood swings related to gambling.
Resources for Gambling Addiction
There are many resources available for those struggling with problem gambling:
- National Problem Gambling Helpline: Call 1-800-GAMBLER for confidential, 24/7 support.
- Gamblers Anonymous (GA): A 12-step recovery program similar to Alcoholics Anonymous, offering peer support meetings. (www.gamblersanonymous.org)
- Therapy and Counseling: Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) has been shown to help individuals address gambling addiction and develop healthier coping mechanisms.
- Financial Counseling: Services that help individuals regain financial stability and manage debt caused by gambling.
- Self-Exclusion Programs: Many casinos and online gambling sites offer self-exclusion programs that allow individuals to voluntarily ban themselves from gambling establishments.
Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. The sooner gambling addiction is addressed, the better the chances of recovery.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Their Gambling
If you suspect your partner has a gambling addiction, starting a conversation can be difficult but necessary. Here are some steps to approach the discussion with care:
- Choose the Right Time and Place: Avoid bringing up the topic during a heated moment or while your partner is gambling. Instead, find a calm and private setting where you can have an honest discussion.
- Use “I” Statements: Express your concerns without blaming or shaming. Instead of saying, “You have a gambling problem,” try, “I’ve noticed that gambling is affecting our finances, and I’m worried about you.”
- Focus on Specific Behaviors: Mention concrete examples of concerning behavior, such as missing bill payments, secretive gambling, or emotional distress after gambling losses. Like many addictions, those struggling with gambling may not find the gambling itself to be a problem.
- Express Concern and Support: Let them know you’re coming from a place of care. Say things like, “I love you and want to support you in getting help.”
- Offer Solutions, Not Ultimatums: Suggest seeking professional help, attending a support group, or setting financial boundaries rather than demanding they stop immediately.
- Be Prepared for Resistance: Your partner may deny the problem or become defensive. Stay calm and reiterate your concerns with empathy. It may take multiple conversations before they’re ready to acknowledge the issue.
- Set Boundaries: If your partner’s gambling is affecting your financial stability or emotional well-being, consider setting firm but loving boundaries. This could include separating finances or seeking counseling together.
Gambling addiction is a serious issue that can impact individuals, relationships, and families. Recognizing the signs early, seeking available resources, and having open, supportive conversations can help break the cycle and lead to recovery. If you or your partner are struggling, know that help is available, and you don’t have to face this alone.For more information, support, and resources, visit the National Council on Problem Gambling at www.ncpgambling.org or call 1-800-GAMBLER.